This is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of minutes on growth. Two weeks ago we discussed passion and purpose, and how we owe it to ourselves to pursue our true purpose in life. However on this journey of pursuit, a lot can happen that is out of our control. Negative factors beyond our reach can impact our mental state of mind such as the actions of our colleagues at work, our friends or even our family. I skipped last week’s episode because I was trying to find a way to cope with a hard and private situation I have been facing lately. They say that if it won’t matter in 5 years then you shouldn’t allow it to impact you now. But I am only human. I have emotions and feelings, and the situation may not matter in 5 years, but it matters now and I cannot shut my feelings off when something or someone hurts or angers me. If I do not know how to cope with these emotions in the correct way, and just push them aside for the time being, they will come back to hurt me one way or another in the future. Whenever a situation produces a negative reaction such as anger, fear or heart break within you, you have to ask yourself”Why is it happening and what is trying to teach me”. But this concept of self-reflection is much easier said than done. So while we’re trying to get to the root of the problem, how can we face it without letting it take over our whole life? I mean even if we get to the root of it, it may still hurt us. I found out that my situation, which was completely about someone else’s life and their choices, was trying to teach me to let go of my need to try and be the ‘fixer’ , but even though I knew that, it still hurt me. So with the help of my spiritual advisor, we came up with the 5 minute rule. Every day for 5 minutes I allow myself to feel all the feelings associated with the situation. During those 5 minutes, there have been days that I’ve cry, there have been days I just sit and stare at the wall and there have been days that i scream from the top of my lungs. But i allow myself to feel that hurt and that anger, but within a time limit. I will only dedicate 5 minutes of my day to this unfortunate situation. I will not allow it to take over my life. I will not allow it to prevent me from pursuing my purpose. I will not allow it to fog my clarity. But I will allow myself to be authentic and honest with myself and more importantly I will give myself time to heal. So if you’re hurting or you’re angry, give yourself time. Don’t bottle up your feelings. Address them. Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself why it hurts and most importantly give yourself 5 minutes everyday for as long as you need to find peace.
Thank you for listening,
Talk to you next week
Love & Light, Tannaz Hosseinpour