Episode 94 – The Dos & Don’ts of Manifesting

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Hi Soul Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome back to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. Last episode, we started our manifestation podcast series by introducing the inner critic, the role it plays in our life and how important it is for us to declutter what no longer serves us, especially our limiting thoughts, opinions, perceptions and beliefs.

This week, I want to briefly talk about the Dos and Donts of manifesting.

Let’s start with the destination addict. this sounds like when I get over there, I will feel this way. When I get x, I’ll be happy. When I find my perfect partner, I’ll do x y or z. This type of thinking robs us of a few things. firstly, we’re always in the future, and rarely ever in the present moment. we’re not able to appreciate the now in anticipation of what could possibly happen tomorrow. when we’re consciously manifesting, it’s important that we embody the feeling that we’ll get once we manifest that certain experience.. in the now. meaning if I make the statement that I’ll wake up at 8 am feeling joyous once I get my dream job, to be able to embody that morning joy now that im unemployed, or now that I’m working at a firm that I don’t particularly enjoy. because like attracts like, embodying those feelings in the present moment will expedite our manifesting process.

The second point to consider is our mind’s relationship with the concept of negatives. Our mind cannot comprehend negative statements. Meaning If I say “dont think of a big elephant, don’t think of a big elephant.. guess what you’re going to be thinking of? a big elephant. your mind did not process the “don’t” part. so it’s important to keep this in mind when we’re creating affirmations or entertaining thoughts. I dont want to have debt is going to place our minds focus on debt.. whereas my bank statement is always in the positive focuses on the presence of money.

Which brings us to our third point..you cannot attract something if you’re focusing on the lack of it . You cannot create abundance if you’re focusing on the lack of it. the moment we say we want love, we’re hinting that we’re lacking love. ever heard someone say “when I’m single no one is interested in me. the moment I’m in a relationship everyone wants me”. its because the moment you’re in a relationship, you’re no longer feeling that lack. energetically you’ve shifted, and again like attracts like. that’s why embodiment plays such a major role in the manifestation process. once we start to embody that which we want to manifest, we attract with much more ease.

Now speaking of thoughts, it’s important to note the 17 seconds rule. Research shows that if we focus on a thought for 17 seconds, it gains momentum. knowing this we can set a conscious intention to intercept limiting thoughts sooner rather than later.

the next point to remember is the importance of flexibility. Be Flexible: Do not get attached to a specific outcome or want things to happen on a particular timeline. remember when we’re consciously manifesting the when and the how isn’t up to us. we’re only in charge of showing up to the best of our ability. more importantly, we see life through a limited 3D perception whereas the universe has a much more expansive 5D Vision so controlling outcomes to get just what you want isn’t the goal – Receiving what is the highest good for all is the plan, and that is always the universe’s plan.

Next, Look for fun – Joy has a high vibrational frequency and we’re meant to have fun in life. Remember how much you loved to play as a kid, rekindle that flame as an adult. Every moment of your life can be filled with joyful experiences if you allow it. When you go to the grocery store, smile more often to strangers, Crack more jokes with your friends, plan more outings, watch more comedies.

Lastly, see the signs. One of the best ways to know whether you’re manifesting something it when you see someone else manifest it first. In those moments you have a choice, to either get jealous or mad that it hasn’t happened for you yet or to see it as a sign from the universe that its on its way for you. When you see someone manifest that you desire, Bless the person for the sign. and if you see someone manifest something and it triggers a feeling a jealousy for you, bless them again.. this time for the stimulation that he is evoking.. because it holds within it the awareness of the desire that is strong within you. We’re rarely ever jealous of what we don’t want.. so envision and imagine it happening for you… feel the feelings associated to it and pretend that it has already happened, because in the metaphysical world, it already has and that is why we always end prayer with “& so it is”.

So these soul-friends are some of the Dos and Donts to consider when consciously manifesting.

Next week, we will dive into the 5 clear steps to conscious manifesting.

Before I go, I just wanted to let you know that I’ll be hosting a manifestation retreat this summer in Mykonos from august 5th to the 9th in the most beautiful private villa overlooking the sea, where I’m going to be diving deep into this decluttering process and helping the attendees really become aware of what it is that they would like to let go of, and what it is that they’d like to start experiencing in their reality. there’s more information on my website http://www.minutesongrowth.com or you can reach out to me directly on social media for more information.

Remember, you have a choice when it comes to your experience of reality so if you can imagine it, then you can definitely achieve it.

Sending you lots of love,

Speak soon

Episode 93 – The Inner Critic when Manifesting

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Hi Soul Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome back to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. A few weeks ago, I hosted a free 90 minute manifestation masterclass on zoom where I discussed the 5 steps to manifesting, the dos and don’t of manifesting, the 12 universal laws, the concept of embodiment, and why doing mindset work is an important part in the process of conscious manifestation. I highly recommend everyone to get the replay link and to rewatch it as many times as they can since our subconscious mind rewires through repetition.

In the meantime, I thought I would break down the masterclass into smaller episodes for those of you who prefer weekly little nuggets of information. 

So let’s begin… when we’re talking about conscious manifesting what are we really talking about? Well we’re talking about the process of becoming conscious of the thoughts, beliefs, opinions and perceptions that we have housed in our subconscious mind and that we are subconsciously entertaining on a daily basis, because ultimately our experience of reality is shaped by those 4 elements. Those 4 elements impact our actions, our mood and our personality which dr Joe disepnza refers to as our personal reality. 

So now before we even get to the steps of manifesting, or the dos and don’t of manifesting, we need to create a solid foundation to manifest from. and this translates to decluttering our mind from what is no longer serving us. on average did you know that we have over 60,000 thoughts? that’s a super super high number. and now let me ask you think. how many of these 60,000 thoughts are empowering and how many are limiting? how many are you conscious of and how many are on auto pilot? so preparing the foundation means that we need to stop being a hoarder of thoughts, beliefs, opinions and perceptions that are limiting our growth, that are limiting us on our journey to our higher self, because the ultimate goal of life is to enter as person A, and leave as person B.

So this strong foundation correlates with having an aligned mindset, a growth mindset, an energy or aura that is in tune with source, where we are navigating and flowing with the current of life and not against it

In theory, this all sounds perfect. Whenever I do this seminar, everyone comments back “I love this, it sounds simple, how do we get started”. and If I’m being honest, it really is simple, but its not easy. why? because there is one character in this game that is committed to you not achieving this level of flow.. welcoming to the stage: your inner critic.

So we have two voices inside of our head: the voice of our soul and the voice of our critic. one feeds on love, and the other on fear, separation and judgment. which one do you think is which?

the inner critic, also referred to as the ego, the inner neighbour , is the clingiest voice that ever existed. it is the voice of constant judgment. it is the voice that separates us from love, from unity, from compassion. it is the voice that tells us we are not good enough, that we are not destined for greatness. it is the voice that feeds off drama, that creates drama.. think of the critic as the clingy unhealthy friend who doesn’t want you to experience joy elsewhere, because then you’d no longer want to befriend the critic who is always putting you down.

What tends to happen, that I notice a lot in my sessions with my clients at the beginning, is that they believe that voice of the critic is their voice. they mistake the critic’s voice as their own, and as a result start to create an identity around the critic’s actions. and over time that identity creates certain limiting emotions that they get stuck in such as shame.

so the first step in laying that foundation is recognizing which voice belongs to our soul, and which voice belongs to the critic. For example, our Soul’s Goal is always to Live a meaningful life, to do we what love, to feel fulfilled and to live with more ease. the critic however tends to create this feeling of fear & doubt within us from dreaming big. Often times, it narrates the following to us:

“This is too much. Who am I to want that house, that partner, that health, that abundance?”

It’s always the voice that says other people can have it, but I can’t and then it will list a million and one reasons why it’s not possible.

so the critic is the voice that delivers and feeds off all our limiting beliefs, and that is why it’s so important to do a mental detox and declutter these existing beliefs because they literally are the content that the critic uses to make us feel less than.

Now you might be thinking, thats great but how do I know what limiting beliefs I’m holding on to? So in the masterclass, I share a visual of a graph called the wheel of life. you can go on my instagram handle @minutesongrowth, and I have it on their too. this graph is divided into 8 equal parts, and these are all areas of our life that impact our experience of reality. they are in no particular order: health, career, finance, spirituality, friends&Family, significant other, hobbies&fun, and personal development. I want you to take a moment and ask yourself where you are in regards to each area out of 10 – meaning out of 10, how is your relationship with your finances? its super important to be as honest as possible when you’re doing this exercise. so ask yourself, where am I? now this is my favourite part… the areas that we give a lower number too, tend to be the areas that we have more limiting beliefs around. so if a client of mine tell me their relationship to finance is a 2 out of 10, then I know that we are harbouring a significant amount of limiting beliefs around money. so this is where we start. we start with the wheel of life and we get really honest and transparent with ourselves about where we are in life and where we’d like to go.

so before we can even engage in the process of conscious manifestation, we need to make sure the soil is ready for us to start planting the seeds that we want to see in our physical reality, and we do that by removing the weeds

now if by any chance, there’s a voice telling you that what you’re hearing is not possible, that its a bunch of mumbo jumbo, remember that it’s the voice of the critic and I just want you to take a moment and remember every single past success that you’ve had, and use those past successes to Believe in yourself, to believe in miracles. and to Believe that you can succeed in any journey that you set your mind to.

I’m going to end the episode here, and next week I’ll dive into the do’s and don’t of manifesting, and then the week after we will cover the 5 steps to manifesting.

Before I go, I just wanted to let you know that I’ll be hosting a manifestation retreat this summer in Mykonos from august 5th to the 9th in the most beautiful private villa overlooking the sea, where I’m going to be diving deep into this decluttering process and helping the attendees really become aware of what it is that they would like to let go of, and what it is that they’d like to start experiencing in their reality. there’s more information on my website http://www.minutesongrowth.com or you can reach out to me directly on social media for more information,

once again thank you for listening,

speak soon.

Episode 90 – Is Putting In The Work Worth It?

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Hi Soul – Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome back to a short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. I want to briefly talk about the importance of putting in the effort in relationships. Last week, I was in a session with a couple that I’ve recently started working with, and at the end of the session, the gentleman looked at me and said ” why did we not learn these in school and why did we not pick up on these insights as we grew up and as we went through different relationships. why is this knowledge not available to us with experience?”

and it got me thinking.. wow. the work that we do consciously and intentionally in our relationships, we need to seek this knowledge -not all of it comes to us on its own. most of these relational tools and skills is something we have to set an intention to learn and to acquire, and it requires effort so is it worth it? is it worth it to read all these books, to go to all these seminars and listen to the podcasts and enrol in the courses, and go to coaching and therapy? because it’s a lot of effort and we’re putting a lot of time, money and energy into it – In my opinion, it is worth it. Not only as someone who has coached hundreds of couples, but also looking at it through my own experience going to couples therapy and coaching.

reflecting back on my relationships when I was 16 and 17 , even up until the age of 24/25, the quality of my relationships are incomparable to the relationships I have now. Back then drama was a constant in my relationships. Fighting and the silent treatment were on the menu every month.

Back then I didn’t how to communicate my feelings in a way where the other person wouldn’t get defensive. I didn’t know how to gather my thoughts and relay them in a constructive way.

Back then , I didn’t even know what boundaries were so I was stuck in a loop of people pleasing burn out.

Back then I didn’t know how to show love in a way that the other person could feel it and resonate with it.

I’m not only talking about my intimate relationships, but my relationships with my family members and my friends, the tools that I’ve learned over the years and the skills that I’ve enhanced have really changed the quality my life.

and it keeps getting better.

because learning is one thing but implementing is a whole different story so am I implementing the communication skills better today than a year ago? definitely — the more practice you have , the better you become at it and the quality of our life is truly impacted by the quality of our relationships

when we’re able to live in a peaceful home, when we’re able to create a fulfilling environment for ourselves at work , when we’re able to create deep and meaningful bonds with our friends and loved ones, our mood changes. More importantly when we’re able to process heavy emotions and have uncomfortable difficult conversations in a respectful manner.. Its a game changer – the quality of our life significantly increases — so is it worth it? yes

but is it a lot of work? the answer is also yes

I want us to briefly pause and for a second recognize why this work is important.

What we need to take into consideration, is if all of this is learned, and we are now living in a world with tremendous advancements in technology that have allowed us to learn in an instant, whether its online on google or all the content creators on instagram, then we have what our parents didn’t have. our parents didn’t have access to these resources to the scope that we do – so they had to either go to school and study psychology or they had to be avid learners where they had to try much harder to gain access through their local libraries and the amount of material out there was much more limited – so what we need to realize is, okay kids from that generation who are now the millennials, we need to do the work. we are now at that age where we’re now building families, and we’re creating the new generation , so it’s a time sensitive matter.

and we have access to so much information, so its not the access to information that was the issue with our parents, but rather the implementation part of it – putting in the hours and effort to practice what we learn

so this is definitely the time – we are the generation that can change the narrative.

we are the generation that can create mutually fulfilling healthy love stories.

the question is – will we do it?

will we allow ourselves the opportunity to rewire our nervous system?

will we allow ourselves the opportunity to reprogram the way we look at and think about relationships and communication and connection?

for decades, we heard the advice don’t go to bed angry which put so much pressure on couples to resolve matters immediately which could potentially lead to one party abandoning their truth for the sake of “peace at bedtime” which built resentment overtime, but now we know that its okay, its okay to go to bed angry – its okay to pause to allow the nervous system to soothe – not everything needs to be solved right then especially if one of the parties is experiencing a freeze response. It’s okay to pause and come back to the discussion when both parties are calmer and can communicate in a respectful manner

Speaking of respect, now, thanks to psychologists such as Dr John Gottman from the Gottman institute , we know about the 4 horsemen: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt and how their presence in our communication can lead to conflict. For more on the 4 horsemen, please listen to my episode named “Healthy Relationships with Elizabeth Earnshaw” In fact Dr John Gottman’s research shows that if contempt is present in a marriage, there’s a 93% chance the relationship will end in divorce.

The moment we know what contempt is, how it shows up and what the antidote is – we can stop ourselves from engaging in it. So we do have control over the 50% that we bring to the relationship. When we know better, we do better and when we do better, the chances of it getting better increases.

Now we know that people process love differently thanks to Dr Gary Chapman, whose research showed us that people’s primary love languages can look different and thats sometimes couple’s feel like their efforts aren’t being recognized by the other person – because they’re speaking to their partner in their own love language, instead of their partner’s love language.

Once we have awareness of these relational tools, we can become proactive with the quality of our relationship. we can break generational patterns. we can write a new story, one where we are in a loving healthy relationship that brings joy into every cell of our body.

remember, healthy loving relationships aren’t manifested, they are created.

and like everything else in life, if you truly want it, and put in the effort, you can experience it.

and more importantly, you deserve to have it.

Sending you lots of love

Speak soon

Episode 87 – Soul vs Ego when Triggered

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Hi Soul-friends,

It’s Tannaz hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of minutes on growth. I want to briefly talk today about processing judgment that we receive from others, whether directly or indirectly through gossip.

When judgment arises from others, the soul and the ego tend to want to react differently.

The ego tends to get defensive and wants to speak up.

In these moments, the ego wants to seek revenge, to cause harm back– the critic will fill your mind up with “but how dare she!” and that’s why its really important in these moments to recognize that hurt people hurt people, and we’re not here on this planet to police people on how they should behave. That’s their movie – whatever they sow they will reap. Whatever we sow we will reap, so our reaction will have impact on our life. (On a side note, from a spiritual perspective, when people gossip about us, what they’re doing is removing our negative energy. So from that perspective, what a blessing that someone through their actions is removing our darkness)

However, coming back to the moment of trigger, the soul knows that it it cannot control other people’s actions towards us – however people act is a reflection of their inner state – those who shame others, tend to carry a lot of shame – those who judge others, tend to be extremely self-judgmental and those who spread false narratives do so from a place of lack.

So the soul understands these concepts and through that recognizes that it’s not personal – that said, the only thing the soul can do is distance itself from those who choose to cause harm and instead focus on its core loving truth

You see, we have have full control over who we allow into our circle , and we need to consciously practice this ability by being intentional with who gets access to our energy field.

This is the gift we give to ourselves.

I know, it’s much easier to practice spiritual concepts when everything is going well. But it’s in the moments that we’re triggered, attacked , hurt that we must do whatever it takes to go against our ego’s nature of reacting and instead pause.

To allow ourselves some space to take deep breaths and to restrict our ego from engaging in other people’s harmful movie loops.

The pause allows the soul to come forward and take the lead.

This is how we invite light into our life

By not engaging in other people’s darkness and by not taking their darkness towards us as personal. happy people don’t go around sprinkling pain and misery onto others. Understanding that allows us to let go without resentment and without judgment. This part is really important, because the ego can show up with another mask and say “Im letting go because I’m better” thats another form of judgment. What we want to do it let go from a place of deep understanding. It definitely doesn’t excuse their behavior and it doesn’t make it okay, but what it does do is it places ourselves first – its us prioritizing our own mental health – this is self love.

So here are some practical ways that you can activate your parasympathetic nervous system when you’re triggered so you can navigate away from the fight or flight response to rest or digest:

  • walk in nature
  • take slow deep breaths — its called balanced breathing, so you inhale for 4 seconds, and then you exhale slowly through the nose again for 4 seconds. you repeat this for 10 times at-least.
  • drinking a glass of cold water or splashing cold water onto your face or putting an ice cube on your neck or wrist
  • speaking to friends who don’t add fuel to the fire and who hold space for you to breathe through it
  • writing out all your emotions on paper and then burning it. by the way, let it all out, do not hold back when you’re transferring your emotions from your body onto the piece of paper
  • lastly, scream it out into a pillow or in your car.. cry it out …

It’s important for us to process these emotions so they don’t get stuck in our system.

Again this doesn’t mean that we don’t set boundaries or choose to distance ourselves, but rather in that moment of trigger, not allowing the ego to engage in a narrative that causes more harm to ourselves. Practicing spiritual concepts of pause or of letting go, does not make you naive or weak. It takes tremendous courage and bravery to be heart centered in a world that feeds off of pain and fear.

You are not what other people think of you.

You are an extension of light

You are made of love

Sending you lots of Love

Speak soon

Episode 85 – Worst Case Scenarios

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Hi Soul-Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth.

Recently someone asked me why they’re always anticipating worst case scenarios, so I thought I’d briefly talk about how the mind works.

To start if you too find yourself in a similar situation, I would suggest you begin by asking yourself: what will happen if the worst case scenario happens? how will you react to it? remember, our reactions can reveal a lot of our subconscious fears and beliefs.

Then ask yourself if there is a small part of you that desires that reaction? Yes you heard that right – what part of you secretly wants that reaction? What part of you feels familiar wth the chaos? In other words, when the worst case scenario happens, is there a part of you that thinks to itself ” I knew it or I told you so” ? This is one way our mind gives us a false sense of control over outcomes.

You see, our minds job is to keep us safe, and safe means not disrupting the status quo, and not creating change.

So for example, if I have this subconscious belief that all men cheat, then my mind will go above and beyond to validate that belief for me – so it will actively look for and entertain men who cheat to prove to me “see I told you so!”

Or if I think that it’s extremely hard to make money, then I might automatically be dismissive of any business opportunities that feel easy, and instead will choose to actively look for and entertain the careers that validate my belief and that feel difficult. After all, the critic in our mind never wants to be wrong.

The same applies to worst case scenarios – when I’m entertaining a worst case scenario, I am subconsciously entertaining a limiting belief that my mind wants to validate. My soul ends up hiding behind these beliefs and starts to mistake the beliefs with the truth. Remember our experience of reality is based on our beliefs, thoughts , opinions and perceptions, so naturally, by entertaining these scenarios, our current experience of reality is altered to match and validate them.

Whenever I fall into a slippery slope of what ifs, my spiritual teacher always asks me “Is this your soul speaking or are you wearing your negatively biased glasses today?”

& 99.9% of the time its the foggy glasses I’m wearing.. I’m seeing the situation through them, and when we can’t see clearly, the mind starts to make assumptions.

This isn’t to scare you into never thinking negatively, but rather through this awareness to give you control back over your life. Once you have awareness of how the mind works, and how our experiences are shaped, we recognize that we are in the driver’s seat of our own life. As William Henley beautifully wrote in Invictus, We become the master of our fate and the captain of our soul.

So the next time you find yourself, entertaining the worst case scenario, ask yourself what is the story underneath it? Then courageously investigate it without self-judgment.

Sending you lots of love,

Speak Soon