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Hi Soul Friends, it’s Tannaz Hosseinpour, and welcome back to another short solo episode of the Minutes on Growth podcast.
You might’ve noticed—it’s been a couple of weeks since our last episode.
And I want to start today by being honest with you.
With everything that was going on in the world, particularly in the Middle East—I found myself needing to pause.
Not because I didn’t have anything to say. But because my nervous system didn’t have the capacity to hold space for one more thing.
And that’s something I’ve really been learning to honor.
So instead of pushing through, instead of producing just to produce, I gave myself permission to take something off my plate.
I extended grace to myself.
And that’s what today’s episode is really about:
How do we learn to honor our capacity and extend ourselves grace, especially when the world around us keeps demanding more?
So often, especially for those of us who are recovering people pleasers, or perfectionists, the idea of pausing feels… wrong.
We fear letting others down.
We fear not being enough.not doing enough.
We fear slowing down might make us seem lazy, unmotivated, or weak.
But here’s a reframe I want to offer:
Pausing isn’t weakness.
It’s wisdom.
Your nervous system knows when it’s reached its threshold (you know those moments when everything you see and hear gets on your nerves… thats when you know you’ve crossed your internal limits)
So one of the most healing things we can do for ourselves is to listen when that whisper shows up telling us to pause.
Because regulation doesn’t happen in constant motion.
It happens in rest.
It happens in space.
It happens in the exhale.
One of the phrases I’ve found myself repeating lately is:
“This is what I have capacity for today, and that is enough.”
Say it with me:
This is what I have capacity for today, and that is enough.
Whether that’s sending one email.
Or feeding yourself.
Or just waking up and being with what is.
Your worth isn’t measured by how much you accomplish.
Your worth is not earned. It is remembered. It is innate.
The relationship you have with yourself is heavily influenced by how tenderly you respond to yourself in those tender moments.
I also want to speak to that very specific discomfort that can arise when you do start honoring your capacity.
Especially for people pleasers.
Especially for those of us who grew up learning to be hyper-aware of everyone else’s needs but our own.
Because let’s be honest; sometimes, putting your well-being first feels… selfish.
But it’s not.
It’s actually a radical act of self-responsibility.
You can’t pour into others when your own cup is bone dry.
You can’t truly serve when your own nervous system is in survival mode.
So when you say, “I need to rest,”
or “I can’t hold that conversation right now,”
or “I need space to feel,”
you are not abandoning others.
You are simply choosing not to abandon yourself.
And I promise you…when you learn to do that, you show up for others more honestly, more sustainably, and more compassionately.
And if no one’s told you this recently:
You’re allowed to take a break.
You’re allowed to reset.
You’re allowed to choose rest over hustle.
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Before we close, I want to gently remind you that our Tuscany Self-Worth, Self-Care & Sisterhood Retreat is just around the corner.
There are only a few spots left, and if you’ve been feeling the pull to recharge, reset, and reconnect in a deeply nourishing way—this might be for you.
Because part of reclaiming our capacity also means surrounding ourselves with spaces that honor who we are becoming.
Spaces that feel safe.
That feel expansive.
That encourage you to be, rather than to perform.
So whether it’s through a retreat, a pause, a breath, or a boundary—
May you keep choosing you.
May you keep honoring what you need.
And may you keep extending grace, even when it feels unfamiliar.
You are not behind.
You are right on time.
Until next time, be gentle with yourself.
You’re doing better than you think.
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