Hi Soul-Friends, It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. Ever since the successful launch of the Become Your Most Loved Self program, the first integrative coaching and therapy program in the GCC where we dive deep into enhancing your relationship with yourself, others and your purpose, I’ve been thinking more and more about the core definition of an intimate relationship. I’ve come up with a few insights that I would love to share with you. I believe that when we’re talking about relationships, we are talking about
the act of surrendering your ego – any conversation where the ego takes the front seat is bound to end up badly. I must say that conflict is normal in relationships. In fact if there’s no conflict, then there’s a high chance that someone is suppressing their needs. But how we communicate with our partner, and how we repair when things get heated is extremely important. The chances of us communicating our thoughts in a healthy manner and repairing when the time is right truthfully not that high when the ego present , because the ego always wants to be right, and in order for you to be right, someone needs to be wrong. This creates a me vs you dynamic, and in a relationship, its never me, but rather we. Realizing that you’re both on the same side. Realizing that there aren’t even sides. Any illusion of separation is the ego’s work.
I also believe that it is the act of letting go of fear; the fear of failure, fear of not being enough, fear of rejection, fear of loss. 99% of the worse case scenarios that we imagine in our head don’t even happen, so why not shift our focus onto the best case scenarios. because when you courageously face fear, you realize that it is simply the absence of love, so the best way to navigate through it, is to make an internal shift onto love.
In fact Relationships are an act of courage; to hate/to run away is easy, but to love with all your walls down, and to show up everyday as your best self is an act only for the brave, and at the core of every human being lies a sea of courage.
Relationships is also the act of trusting the universe; trusting that if we take accountability for our own experience of reality, then the other person being here is an opportunity to help us become a better person by mirroring our own flaws , our own trauma and wounds through their behaviour. I also want to quickly note that one of the best ways to figure out what you do want in life, is to experience what you don’t want. It’s either a lesson or a blessing, never a waste.
Relationships are also a test of living in the moment; often times we reminisce about the past or get stuck planning the future. It is moments like these when you lose sight of what’s important or what’s real– So it’s important for us to aware and able to shift our attention to the feeling or the person standing in front of you at that exact time and place.
Relationships are an act of reciprocity; respect and love is a two way street. We must be willing to give to receive. Anything one sided never works. Sometimes this requires us to step outside of our comfort zone – to learn how to give for the sake of giving thus without expectation, and to learn how to receive with grace and acceptance.
The interesting part is that our soul already knows all of this. Our soul wants to practice all of this. It is the psyche that gets in the way. If we’re aware of this, then every single day we can set an intention to choose love over and over again.
If your soul is ready to practice this ultimate truth, then I’m so excited to announce that the Become Your Most Loved Self program is opening up enrolment for the second round that begins on February 6th. A 10-week program to help women tap into their most loved self in every single relationship in their life. At our core, we are pure love and therefore we deserve to have love in every area of our life. We just need to silence the ego to get there. As the Persian poet Rumi beautifully said, Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”
Soul friend, May you see all your relationships as portals to your higher self.
Thank you for listening,