Episode 13- Addictions

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Hi everyone,

My name is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to a new episode of Minutes on Growth. I took a break for a couple of weeks to get to the root of my constant battle with sweets, especially with the high risk of diabetes in my family, and the answer surprisingly came to me through a book we were reading for our monthly book club, in fact during a moment when I actually was not even thinking about my sugar addiction. Don Miguel Ruiz in his book The Mastery of Love eloquently writes, ” Sometimes the self-judgment is so strong that people need to be numb just to be with themselves… To avoid being with yourself, you need to take something to numb you, to take your mind away from yourself. Perhaps some alcohol is going to help. Perhaps some drugs. Perhaps eating – eat, eat, eat. ” As I read these words I realized that my inability to control my sugar intake was linked to my relationship with myself. I was frustrated with myself and I wanted to punish myself for placing myself in a certain situation. This cycle seemed familiar …

I am not one to shy away from my past. During my university years, I, a teenager who had just moved away from home, was constantly judging myself for myriad of personal reasons, and I masked my pain with hurtful substances. As I went through therapy, read more books and made some major changes in my life, my need to escape reality lessened. When faced with obstacles, I chose to deal with them consciously and with heightened awareness. However, somewhere along the lines, I lost control and started to seek external comfort. Its strange. I am well-informed about the benefits of a plant based diet and I tend to eat healthy most of the time. However, my struggles with candy, and chocolate have prevented me from achieving optimal health.

Some may argue that chocolate is not as bad as alcohol. But an addiction is an addiction, and too much of anything is harmful.

Even worse, once you have that chocolate bar and see the side effects it has on your body, you tend to judge yourself more and the vicious cycle repeats itself.

This realization has helped me become more conscious of my bad habits. When I find myself opening a chocolate bar or even pouring myself a drink, I ask myself why? Happiness and inner peace is an inside job – so are you trying to run away from your feelings? Are you angry? sad? frustrated or simply bored? I try to be compassionate with myself and push myself to face my feelings, even if I do not know their reasons. While I haven’t been able to completely put aside my bad habits, these steps have helped me limit them and understand their roots better.

I now know that addictions scream denial, scream self-hate and most of all scream self-judgment. The only person who is going to be with us till our last moment is ourselves. We need to be able to live harmoniously alongside ourselves, in full awareness and consciousness without the need for help from external factors . We need to judge ourselves less, and be patient with ourselves as we figure out the root of our problems. These problems didn’t arise overnight, and won’t disappear overnight either. Adding an addiction into the mix will only make matters worse.

On another note, I would highly recommend The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz. His insights are extremely valuable for our self-growth.

Thank you for listening, talk to you soon.

 

Episode 12 – The Importance of Consciously Giving

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Hi everyone,

My name is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of Minutes on Growth. Last time we spoke about relationships and the importance of respecting our space and energy. This week I want to discuss energy at a universal level. Throughout the years as I’ve fund raised for various organizations, I’ve noticed that some people are hesitant to help causes that do not directly impact them or their communities. I want to take a moment and highlight the concept of collective consciousness. When someone for example in India is suffering either emotionally or physically, all citizens around the world are impacted by it, as that person’s consciousness is part of the universal consciousness. Think of the world as a rug, and every single person being a thread in that carpet. We may not notice it, but sufferings around the world place a heavy toll on universe’s energy, which may have negative consequences both at a micro and macro level.

Knowing this, it is absolutely vital to show compassion, to take care of yourself, of your family, your community and  of strangers worldwide; to use our words and actions as a tool of healing not hurting.

So seek ways to serve others. If you see someone whose emotionally distressed, give them a hug or offer a compassionate ear to listen. If you see someone who is financially struggling, see if you’re able to help them out or try and fund-raise for them. If you see someone who is depressed help them see their talents and how valuable their presence is. If you see someone feeling insecure, share a compliment. Help carry someone’s grocery bag or let them skip the check out line if you sense they’re in a hurry. Use your extra time to volunteer or take out a friend whose been feeling down lately.  Offer a hand to those overwhelmed at work or school. Use your social media to raise awareness for causes you are passionate about. Use your instagram account to inspire not put down. Take a moment out of your day and message your loved ones. Motivate those around you to achieve greatness.

Do something good everyday. and good will return to you. However it is very important to be aware of the intentions behind your actions. It is important to authentically give – to help because you want to , and not because you feel obligated to or feel the need to impress society. If you do it for all the wrong reasons, you will end up feeling depleted and empty instead of full and enriched. Elevate from your core. Realize that these powerful words and actions you’ve chosen to honor have the power to change lives, to make the world into a better place.

We are all in this together.

As Oprah Winfrey quotes ” As Long as we play the us and them game, we won’t evolve as people, as a nation, as a planet.” We’re all on the same team. In fact, we all go through ups and downs so what a wonderful feeling knowing that all the good you do today are stored in the universal bank of karma, and that when you least expect it but need it the most, it can help bring back miracles into your life.

We need to be open to helping others emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. Together, we can elevate the collective consciousness and restore everyone’s faith in humanity. It is easier to be bad or to be a pessimist. Let us show our strength by choosing to do good and to be optimistic about the people we share this planet with. Today pay it forward. Let us create a domino effect of kindness and compassion.

Thank you for listening, Talk to you soon.

 

Episode 11 – Relationships

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Hey everyone,

This is tannaz hosseinpour and welcome to a new episode of Minutes on Growth. With valentines day right around the corner, I thought it would be fitting to talk about relationships. Prior to my current relationship, I was in an unhealthy relationship for more than 2 years.  Despite him having an abusive temper, I constantly found myself making up excuses for his behavior and trying to rationalize it all. I kept reading relationship books by different authors, ranging from a psychological point of view to a spiritual perspective. I strongly believe that everyone enters our life to teach us a lesson about ourselves and until we learn why, the situation will not change. I knew that my parent’s separation played a major role in my inability to walk away, but i somehow was unable to apply my findings to my situation. So as always i sought the help of my spiritual advisor, and he gave me one of the best advice I have ever received. He said, “Treat your relationship with the same principles you would use at work; it is important to have a list of deal breakers and to hire late and fire quickly” He further explained that at the beginning of a relationship we tend to look past the red flags as we’re so mesmerized with the idea of us two being together. This euphoric feeling of lust, alongside society’s never-ending pressure to be in a relationship, causes us to hire someone quickly into our lives. As time passes by and that initial excitement fades, we start to notice the red flags, but at this moment we’re already feeling the sense of attachment and therefore hesitate in firing them. We end up feeling stuck. We pity ourselves and nag about how unfortunate and unlucky we are that we always end up with the bad ones. But what if we were able to reverse that cycle. To first write down a list of deal breakers or boundaries and actually honor them. To take our time in allowing someone to enter our lives, and once they’re in, to still be aware that if at any moment, those boundaries are broken, you’re able to quickly fire them. Everyone’s list varies. For me it was important for my partner to be extremely kind and philanthropic, to have a great sense of humor and to not be over protective. So when I started dating again, I would immediately pull out my mental checklist. I wanted to protect my energy and space, and I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my peace of mind for temporary companionship, and over time after countless dates I found a partner who fulfilled my checklist and whose checklist I fulfilled. All boundaries are maintained, and we have the utmost respect for one another. Nevertheless, I always tell him that I hope we continue to be in each other’s lives for as long as our souls are in harmony with one another. I have trained myself to let go off everything and everyone that damages my soul’s peace, the same way I would let go of any employee that would damage my business. It’s not easy but it has to be done. So my advice is to treat your space with love and respect, to avoid rash and quick love decisions, and to never silence your gut instinct, regardless of how promising an image can be modeled to look like at first.

I hope your day is filled with endless love today and everyday. Thank you for listening. Talk to you soon.

 

 

Episode 10 – Perspective and Positivity

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Hey everyone,

My name is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of minutes on growth. Last time we spoke about acceptance and love beyond borders, and the need to look past labels for the sake of humanity. This week I want to discuss a more personal and self-related matter.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be positive and more importantly how to actually be positive. We’ve all heard the statement ” live in the moment” but lets be honest, it is much easier said than done. But over the past few weeks, as a result of  certain events, I realized that the only tool you need to be positive is a loving and calm perspective. Last week, my partner and I were at a cottage with our friends, when i accidentally stuck a knife into my palm. As blood was gushing out of my hand, I noticed that I wasn’t panicking. We quickly put on some ointment and headed to the ER room where I got a few stitches. We were back at the cottage within 2 hours, and continued to smile and party alongside our friends. The next day hot water poured all over me, and once again my body didn’t show a reaction. As we were driving back to town, I thought more deeply about it. Had I shown a negative reaction, allowed my controlling side to come out and panicked, my night would have been ruined. The people around me would have become stressed and the incident would feel worse than it actually was. But because I had shifted away from a fearful and controlling perspective, and handled it calmly, we were able to peacefully and positively pass through it. And that’s life. We can’t control what happens to us, but we can always control our reactions, and it is precisely our reactions that create the state of our lives. The harder we take life, the harder is becomes. The easier and more relaxed our perspective, the easier life flows.

As I shared my insight with my partner, he too decided he would shift his perspective from fear to love and acceptance at work. You may not believe it, but as he changed his choice of words and thoughts, let life just unravel on its own without his need to control every small detail, and stopped panicking and worrying about his current work situation,in a matter of 48 hours, he noticed that deals which he was fearful to pursue because of rejection, kept falling on his lap on their own.

So, I would like you to keep this in mind the next time an unfortunate event occurs or you feel you are panicking or worrying about an event. Take a second and evaluate your reaction and your thoughts. Instead of panicking, How can you make the situation better?and more importantly, how can you step away from fear and into the field of love and acceptance, because everything flourishes with love, and everything is better with acceptance and calmness.

Thank you for listening. Talk to you soon.

 

 

 

Episode 9 – Acceptance and Love Beyond Borders

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Hey everyone,

My name is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of minutes on growth. Last time ,we spoke about karma, and how we always reap what we sow, whether its intentional or subconsciously. This week I want to discuss acceptance and love beyond borders. I just got back from a short trip in New Delhi India, where I visited mosques, hindu temples, and sikh temples all in one day. As I glazed into the eyes of the devotees, I sensed a feeling of appreciation and acceptance from them for my love and respect for their religion. As a religion major, I have always been an advocate of accepting and experiencing all religions and beliefs, because I believe that the core of them all is the same; pure love. I also believe that my religion or place of birth does not define me. As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin quotes, We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. This body of mine and all of its labels are not real – what lies behind it is.

Knowing this, I always make a conscious decision to be inclusive as possible and to love without any borders; to educate myself and celebrate special moments such as Christmas, Easter, Hanukah, Eid & others. I also tend to avoid any nationalistic tendencies because I strongly associate myself as a citizen of the globe. These choices whether conscious or instilled upon by my parents, have allowed me to build stronger and deeper relationship with people from all around the world because ultimately everyone wants to feel accepted and respected.

Experiencing this, I’ve been advocating the demise of labels for the past few years because once you label someone as something, you have immediately created an imaginary wall between you both because now you’re no longer the same … but I recently came to the conclusion that people associate labels with a sense of identity and that not everyone is willing to let that go. This month of December, as we celebrated the Prophet Mohammad’s birthday, Hannukah and prepared for Christmas, I noticed that there’s another way to achieve the goal of complete acceptance, and that’s a shift of perspective from association to Love.

The notion that you connect with the other person based on what is in their heart and not on anything else. You may not get them to rid themselves of their labels, but you can shift your focus on the melody of their soul. Because let’s be frank – We all at some point in our lives may have judged people based on where they’re from, or their religion, and these judgments have impacted our relationships with them. Based on cultural stereotypes, we look down upon certain people or put others on a pedestal. But you’re a good person not because of your religious views, but because of your pure thoughts and actions. You’re a competent person not because of the passport you hold, but because of your capabilities. Don’t forget, that in order for me to feel superior, someone else has to feel inferior. In order for my beliefs to be the right one, someone else’s has to be wrong.

Or even worse, we tend to only care about events and causes that directly impact us. But what we fail to realize is that we are all interconnected. These labels are all man-made. Geographical boundaries have changed over the years. Look at a map from a century ago and compare to a present one. A country’s boundaries have been set by human beings- they’re not set in stone and they’re definitely not strong enough to create a separation.

Let’s not give in to politicians who want us to be divided so they can sell weapons or create wars. Let us unite. Let us build friendships that transcend these man made concepts. Let us stand up, raise awareness and help causes that don’t directly affect us. Because once you do, you realize how interwoven the world is. Let us experience all that life has to offer us through the eyes of love for all ethnicity and religions. Let us not limit ourselves. let us love, respect and take care of all the pure and kind souls out there. The world is a much more beautiful place when you rid yourselves of these man-made cultural stereotypes and break all these imaginary walls.

Thank you for listening, speak to you soon.

 

Episode 8 – Karma

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Hi everyone,

This is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of Minutes on Growth. Last week we discussed self care vs selfishness, how to distinguish between the two and how to take care of your mental and physical health. This week I want to discuss the concept of Karma and taking responsibility for what happens to you – I was fortunate enough to have an article I wrote published on Angels Messenger, where I discuss a story of how after being cyber bullied, an angel card reading and an unexpected guest led me to a more spiritual path at the Kabbalah center. What the story doesn’t mention is that me being cyber bullied wasn’t out of the blue. In grade 9, I unfortunately bullied a much younger child on the school bus and I ended up with a one day suspension, which I thought was the consequence of my actions. However I was wrong, because fast forward 8 years, I was now being the victim of bullying. Now, a lot of times things happen in our life and we say ” Why me? What did I do? I’m so innocent? Why does the universe hate me? ” We fail to see the links. Sometimes its because we are in denial and other times we simply forget our actions because so much time has passed. We fail to see that we are reaping what we sowed years and years ago. But, if we’re able to connect the dots and to step outside our victim zone, we are then able to handle the situation much better, because even if the situation does hurt, we know we brought it upon ourselves so then subconsciously our minds become much more aware of its thoughts and actions. Before we say or do something, we think is it kind, is it nice, is it necessary? Because you want to refrain from spreading any hate or malicious content into the universe – because you know it will come back to you one way or another eventually. In this world, our actions even as a child, regardless of the consciousness behind it, will come back to teach us a lesson. We cannot leave the world the same way we entered it. The karmic cycle teaches us, helps us to grow and helps us to enhance our sense of empathy and compassion, so the next time something happens to you and you feel you’re victimized or how unfortunate it is that you have to face this , ask yourself if you’re picking the fruits of the same tree you planted, and then take responsibility for it. Because ultimately, the universe, energy, god or however you want to name it is fair, and the world spins round and round and so do our actions and thoughts so we need to live more presently, and be more aware and conscious of ourselves and more importantly be responsible for what happens to us. & if you’d like to read my article, then head on over to http://www.angelmessenger.net , under guest posts in the articles section.

Thank you and have a blessed week

 

Episode 7- Selfish vs. Self Care

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Hey everyone! My name is Tannaz Hpour and welcome to this week’s episode of Minutes on Growth. A few weeks ago we discussed the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself – and how vital it is to have self love and respect. I apologize for not posting these past 2 weeks, however as a result of the unfortunate earthquake in Iran, all my attention was directed towards fundraising and raising awareness of the cause, which brings us to this week’s topic of being selfish vs. self care. I knew that my productive hours would be more useful helping out with the cause and that If I had forced my body and mind to over-work, I would be hurting my own health. I wanted my creativity to flow at the right time and on its own pace.

Self care is all about placing yourself first, your mental and physical health as long as it does not hurt someone else. For many years, I was attracting partners with a selfish trait – I did not understand why it kept happening to me; I mean I was always helping out people, and trying my best to be a supportive friend — until one day a wise teacher pointed out that I was extremely selfish – At the age of 17, I had chosen to study in a different country when I knew that my younger brother at home needed me to stay close to him. I had consistently made choices that not only benefited me, but which hurt those closest to me. I was selfish.  I then started to teach myself the importance of keeping into consideration how my choices impacted other people – I wanted to respond to life from a place of empathy. So I jumped to the other end of the spectrum. I said yes to everyone and everything – A few years later, and now this time i had turned into a people pleaser. I became addicted to pleasing others – and somewhere along the way, I had forgotten about myself. But how can I please others, if I can’t please myself? Were my actions out of love or habit?

& that is where balance and awareness comes in. Quoting Meggan Roxanne, self care is acknowledging that you don’t have to be apart of anything that hinders your growth. I’ve created a mental do and don’t list for my mental and physical health which I try my best to follow. Do not force a conversation, a friendship, or a relationship. Do not place yourself in negative situations. Do not engage in gossip. Do not be inauthentic. Do not drink excessively. Do not consume animal products. Do not make mean or judgmental comments to people. Do not label people or situations. Do not rush through life, Take your time. Pamper yourself. Hug and kiss yourself. Be in touch with your true feelings. Express your true feelings in a respectful manner to those around you, whether it is you feeling hurt or happy by something they’ve done or said. Choose friendships that inspire you. Choose a job that sparks your creativity and enlightens your day. Go to places that make you happy. Go on spiritual detoxes. Rid yourself of toxic thoughts. Raise awareness about causes dear to you. Speak to your inner child. Share your passions, gifts and talents with your community. Be of service to those in need. Offer your hand to those in need.

As Oprah says, the biblical verse Learning to love your neighbor as yourself, means you first have got to love yourself. People who truly love themselves, do not spread hate, do not spread violence, or try to inflict harm on others.

So take care of your self – Be protective of your space – Be aware of your thoughts – Filter our the negative ones – Allow yourself to prosper – Allow yourself to be the best version of yourself even if that means saying no at times. Do not hurt yourself. Do not intentionally hurt others. Let your positivity and display of self love and care inspire others.

When you love and take care of yourself, can you love your family, friends, community and  the world you live in. Thank you for listening,

Episode 6 – Your Relationship with Your-SELF

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Hi Everyone,

My name is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of Minutes on Growth. Last week we discussed the importance of maintaining a healthy mind-body relationship and how inter-connected the two are. What I failed to realize is that in order to have a healthy mind-body relationship, there is a very vital component that must be present – the relationship/friendship you have with your self, because your mental health is dependent on your level of self-care. Over this past week as I’ve been discussing the content of my previous episode with my friends and those around me, i noticed that this relationship with the self is not present among many of us.

What do I mean by the relationship with the self?

It is the ability and the consciousness to give yourself love, to give yourself attention, to place yourself first at times. Through conversations that I had with myself, I realized that at times we are great friends to others, but we cannot gift ourselves with the same type of friendship. I am sure there have been times when a friend of yours has asked you to join them for an event, or to meet them at a place, but deep down you truly did not want to go – It was not a matter of stepping outside of your comfort zone, but it was just a matter of you not enjoying that particular activity or you were just not vibrating at a high frequency that day and wanted to relax instead – but for the sake of that friend, you say yes. Now there are two scenarios. The first is that when the time comes for you to go, its very difficult for you to get ready, driving there or getting there isn’t fun for you, spending time there isn’t fun for you. So what have you done? You have placed yourself in a situation where interactions are forced – all because you did not want to disappoint your friend by saying no – The second scenario is that you push yourself to go, but realize that it’s impossible so you end up canceling last minute. So now you have become a person that cancels last minute, you become a person that cant stick to a commitment, your friend may become disappointed in you, and you feel bad because you had to cancel.

So what if we could avoid all of this from the beginning? & that is why it is so important for us to be true to ourselves and to realize hat sometimes we have to put ourselves first – because if you’re not vibrating at your highest self, you cannot be a good parent, a good friend, partner or sibling. Sometimes my phone rings and If I’m not feeling well, I don’t feel the need to immediately answer it and its okay, sometimes its okay to say no, sometimes its okay to be alone, to re-evaluate a friendship, to leave a relationship that no longer fulfills you, to take a day off, to pamper yourself, to do nothing or to do something that you truly enjoy on your own. Because the most important relationship you are ever going to have is your relationship with your self so be kind and honest with yourself. To quote Anita Moorjani, to perform a service out of obligation is dishonest both to the receiver and to the giver. If you and yourself are the best of friends, the other relationships such as your mind-body will come easier, because your health is your priority, your mental health is your priority, your physical health is your priority. I always tell my partner, if at any point in your life, we realize that being together isn’t fulfilling us, we must leave, regardless of how hard it may be , because you are the only person you are going to be with 24/7 for the rest of your life until your last breathe. Because only when you put yourself first, and you are besties with yourself, are you then able to be the best partner to me, because then I’ll know that everything you tell me and everything you do is authentic, because they’ll be the things you want to do and say and not because you have to do – and when you do things from the heart, you never expect anything in return – because it was a choice, not a demand = and that is the most important element of any relationship or friendship, that realness.  Anything you do or say becomes natural – not forced – and burden free.

So do not deny yourself your feelings, but instead allow yourself the freedom and courage to put your mental and physical health first – and you can do that by learning how to say and hear both yes and no – You may be thinking to yourself that this episode is promoting selfishness – but there is a clear distinction between selfishness and self – love, a topic I will delve in further next week. Until then, thank you for listening and have a great week

 

The Relationship Acts 


Recently,  I’ve been trying to figure out what the core definition of a relationship is

▪️ It is the act of surrendering your ego – any conversation where the ego takes the front seat is bound to end up in a fight.

▪️It is the act of letting go of fear; the fear of failure – “what if I fall? Oh darling, but what if you fly”
▪️It is the act of trusting the universe; that the other person is here to help us become a better person by reflecting our own flaws through their own behaviour.

▪️It is a test of living in the moment; often times we reminisce about the past or get stuck planning the future. It is moments like these when you lose sight of what’s important – the feeling the person standing in front of you at that exact time and place gives you. 

▪️It is an act of courage; to hate/to run away is easy, but to love with all your walls down is an act only for the brave. 

▪️ It is an act of reciprocity; respect and love is a two way street. You must give to receive. Anything one sided never works

◽️None of the above are acts, because they must come naturally and consciously to us.

◽️▪️ Every single day, the above elements are tested. And Every single day we make a choice: To allow our opponent to fill our mind with fear or to allow our souls to navigate us —

Episode 5 – Heal Your Mind-Body Connection

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Hey everyone,

This is Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to this week’s episode of Minutes on Growth. Last week we discussed the 5 minute rule and how to allocate 5 minutes of our day everyday for as long as we need to feel the feelings associated to a situation that has triggered sadness, anger or fear within us. But what happens if we neglect our feelings and bottle them up and choose to not face them ? Over time, at some point in our lives,  they will show up but in different forms.

We tend to only share the happy and fun parts of our lives on our social media, we do not share our real pains, our darkest hours. I’ve decided to change that, and to be authentic with myself and those around me.

Whenever we push aside our feelings, it reappears in our lives but through a different form. It appears as depression, as weight gain, it appears as a skin disorder or an illness, or it simply takes away the light and youth component from our faces.

The mind and the body are interconnected and we cannot dismiss one or the other. In 2010, my body had never looked better, I was working out 7 times a week, and i finally had the abs I always dreamed off. But then suddenly I woke up one morning, and I had acne for the first time in my life and slowly after that I developed psoriasis. My body may have been healthy, but my mind wasn’t. I had pushed aside my feelings for years. My involuntary relocation from Dubai to Canada, my parents separation, my rejection from Harvard, the loss of friendship, all of these events had impacted me and I never allowed myself to really feel the feelings that I felt as a result of them. I immersed myself into both good and bad things; self harm, wrong relationships, drunken blacked out nights and on the other hand long hours at the library, and intense work outs.

Everyone goes through hardship, and is forced to face unpleasant situations, but if we’re able to face them as they happen, we’re then able to prevent ourselves from making the wrong choices, because we will no longer be making decisions based on fear on anger, but rather be making decisions based on a higher level of awareness and consciousness and from a place of peace and  healing.

I made a choice to embark on a journey of self discovery and healing- i now am aware that my negative emotions trigger my skin disorder, When I get angry or sad, I find my skin itching,(I’ve also noticed that a lot of people get really bad stomach cramps when they’re mad). I now know that my weight gain is a reflection of my inability to let go of some situations and that is why I am unable to let go of the extra pounds. I now know that as a result of my unresolved issues, I have attracted a partner facing the same dilemma,  BECAUSE we do not attract who we want but rather who we are – My body’s reaction is through skin disorders and weight gain, but his is different. I now know that my body and mind cannot be separated and if I am to live life fully and to the highest of my potential, I must dedicate time to both my mental and physical health, and I cannot do that alone.

So now as I am facing life’s new set of challenges, I am allowing myself to discuss and share my pain without shame and judgment. I am learning the importance of a good support group. I am learning that is okay to not be okay as long as I am doing all that I can to fix the root of the problem. I am learning that as I heal my mind, my body will follow. I hope you as well allow yourself to be authentic, to be real, to be felt, to be heard, to be seen.

I recommend you all to read Louise Hay’s book on healing your life and your body.

Thank you for listening, Talk to you next week