Episode 87 – Soul vs Ego when Triggered by Tannaz Hosseinpour

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Hi Soul-friends,

It’s Tannaz hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of minutes on growth. I want to briefly talk today about processing judgment that we receive from others, whether directly or indirectly through gossip.

When judgment arises from others, the soul and the ego tend to want to react differently.

The ego tends to get defensive and wants to speak up.

In these moments, the ego wants to seek revenge, to cause harm back– the critic will fill your mind up with “but how dare she!” and that’s why its really important in these moments to recognize that hurt people hurt people, and we’re not here on this planet to police people on how they should behave. That’s their movie – whatever they sow they will reap. Whatever we sow we will reap, so our reaction will have impact on our life. (On a side note, from a spiritual perspective, when people gossip about us, what they’re doing is removing our negative energy. So from that perspective, what a blessing that someone through their actions is removing our darkness)

However, coming back to the moment of trigger, the soul knows that it it cannot control other people’s actions towards us – however people act is a reflection of their inner state – those who shame others, tend to carry a lot of shame – those who judge others, tend to be extremely self-judgmental and those who spread false narratives do so from a place of lack.

So the soul understands these concepts and through that recognizes that it’s not personal – that said, the only thing the soul can do is distance itself from those who choose to cause harm and instead focus on its core loving truth

You see, we have have full control over who we allow into our circle , and we need to consciously practice this ability by being intentional with who gets access to our energy field.

This is the gift we give to ourselves.

I know, it’s much easier to practice spiritual concepts when everything is going well. But it’s in the moments that we’re triggered, attacked , hurt that we must do whatever it takes to go against our ego’s nature of reacting and instead pause.

To allow ourselves some space to take deep breaths and to restrict our ego from engaging in other people’s harmful movie loops.

The pause allows the soul to come forward and take the lead.

This is how we invite light into our life

By not engaging in other people’s darkness and by not taking their darkness towards us as personal. happy people don’t go around sprinkling pain and misery onto others. Understanding that allows us to let go without resentment and without judgment. This part is really important, because the ego can show up with another mask and say “Im letting go because I’m better” thats another form of judgment. What we want to do it let go from a place of deep understanding. It definitely doesn’t excuse their behavior and it doesn’t make it okay, but what it does do is it places ourselves first – its us prioritizing our own mental health – this is self love.

So here are some practical ways that you can activate your parasympathetic nervous system when you’re triggered so you can navigate away from the fight or flight response to rest or digest:

  • walk in nature
  • take slow deep breaths — its called balanced breathing, so you inhale for 4 seconds, and then you exhale slowly through the nose again for 4 seconds. you repeat this for 10 times at-least.
  • drinking a glass of cold water or splashing cold water onto your face or putting an ice cube on your neck or wrist
  • speaking to friends who don’t add fuel to the fire and who hold space for you to breathe through it
  • writing out all your emotions on paper and then burning it. by the way, let it all out, do not hold back when you’re transferring your emotions from your body onto the piece of paper
  • lastly, scream it out into a pillow or in your car.. cry it out …

It’s important for us to process these emotions so they don’t get stuck in our system.

Again this doesn’t mean that we don’t set boundaries or choose to distance ourselves, but rather in that moment of trigger, not allowing the ego to engage in a narrative that causes more harm to ourselves. Practicing spiritual concepts of pause or of letting go, does not make you naive or weak. It takes tremendous courage and bravery to be heart centered in a world that feeds off of pain and fear.

You are not what other people think of you.

You are an extension of light

You are made of love

Sending you lots of Love

Speak soon

Episode 85 – Worst Case Scenarios by Tannaz Hosseinpour

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Hi Soul-Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth.

Recently someone asked me why they’re always anticipating worst case scenarios, so I thought I’d briefly talk about how the mind works.

To start if you too find yourself in a similar situation, I would suggest you begin by asking yourself: what will happen if the worst case scenario happens? how will you react to it? remember, our reactions can reveal a lot of our subconscious fears and beliefs.

Then ask yourself if there is a small part of you that desires that reaction? Yes you heard that right – what part of you secretly wants that reaction? What part of you feels familiar wth the chaos? In other words, when the worst case scenario happens, is there a part of you that thinks to itself ” I knew it or I told you so” ? This is one way our mind gives us a false sense of control over outcomes.

You see, our minds job is to keep us safe, and safe means not disrupting the status quo, and not creating change.

So for example, if I have this subconscious belief that all men cheat, then my mind will go above and beyond to validate that belief for me – so it will actively look for and entertain men who cheat to prove to me “see I told you so!”

Or if I think that it’s extremely hard to make money, then I might automatically be dismissive of any business opportunities that feel easy, and instead will choose to actively look for and entertain the careers that validate my belief and that feel difficult. After all, the critic in our mind never wants to be wrong.

The same applies to worst case scenarios – when I’m entertaining a worst case scenario, I am subconsciously entertaining a limiting belief that my mind wants to validate. My soul ends up hiding behind these beliefs and starts to mistake the beliefs with the truth. Remember our experience of reality is based on our beliefs, thoughts , opinions and perceptions, so naturally, by entertaining these scenarios, our current experience of reality is altered to match and validate them.

Whenever I fall into a slippery slope of what ifs, my spiritual teacher always asks me “Is this your soul speaking or are you wearing your negatively biased glasses today?”

& 99.9% of the time its the foggy glasses I’m wearing.. I’m seeing the situation through them, and when we can’t see clearly, the mind starts to make assumptions.

This isn’t to scare you into never thinking negatively, but rather through this awareness to give you control back over your life. Once you have awareness of how the mind works, and how our experiences are shaped, we recognize that we are in the driver’s seat of our own life. As William Henley beautifully wrote in Invictus, We become the master of our fate and the captain of our soul.

So the next time you find yourself, entertaining the worst case scenario, ask yourself what is the story underneath it? Then courageously investigate it without self-judgment.

Sending you lots of love,

Speak Soon

Episode 84 – Breakdowns, Breakthroughs and the Space in Between by Tannaz Hosseinpour

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Soul-friends,

It’s been a while since I’ve recorded a short solo cast — mainly because I’ve been occupied observing a very interesting space that I have found myself in.

Many speak of breakdowns, and as a result of breakthroughs, but few speak of the icky space in between these two.

The space in between – This is the space of uncertainty, or as I like to think of it, the space where anything and everything is possible, but as exciting that might sound, it is a space filled with confusion, with many never ending questions around identity and purpose.

Where am I going? Who am I becoming? What am I doing?

10 months ago, I experienced a traumatic life quake that changed the trajectory of my life. Since then I have dived in and out of the different states of grief — grieving the loss of life as I knew it— and I think my soul is now ready to slowly make it to the finish line, but like all finish lines, the last steps are the hardest. In fact I strongly believe that right before the finish line , is the last final breakdown of the current chapter of your life.

This finish line feels like a caterpillar’s final moments before it turns into a butterfly. It is a period of extreme internal struggle. This final breakdown is what makes the biggest difference. Here we have a choice. We can either allow it to inspire us to evolve to the next level, or allow it to break us for good. For evolvement to take place, it is imperative that we do not interfere with the struggle and not become numb.

What does that look like?

Well our role then becomes to simply enter into a state of stillness – to become quiet and witness.. witness the pain of shedding parts of yourself that no longer serve you, witness the pain of letting go of the old parts of you that are now redundant, witness the pain of cutting the chord of your old dreams & goals, that once served you for sure, but not anymore.

It’s as if you’re at your own life’s bonfire… everything you are throwing in needs to burn, and there’s nothing you can do to change the fact that they’re no longer serving you.. so you might as well watch the fire become bigger… with a lot of tears involved.

This is not a period of playing the victim. This is not a period of seeking answers. This is not a period of suppressing emotions.

This is a period of rawness.

This is a period of going against our nature of instant gratification and sitting in the discomfort of not knowing why you’re there but at the time time having certainty, certainty that after this, oh the places you will go & the miracles and the blessings that will come through you during the breakthrough…Thinking about it gives me goosebumps, and that is the beauty of spiritual certainty. certainty that we are always divinely guided even when our logical mind can’t comprehend it… certainty that the universe will always reroute us to our highest good, if only we allow it. if only we do not interfere in the final breakdown.

So if we find ourselves here in this space of in between, how can we make the best out of it? I’ve realized that the biggest and most important step in this space is acceptance. Accepting that you’re hurt, or that you’re in pain. so when people ask you how you’re doing? instead of abandoning yourself and saying I’m good, just honestly responding I’m not good but thats okay. It’s accepting that you have no control, no control over how long this period is going to last, no control over the outcome.. It’s accepting the discomfort. It’s accepting that you’re going through an unknown journey – one that will require you to burn to ashes the current version of yourself.

& you know what? this part truly sucks.

Why? because we’d rather stay in our comfort zone, have things as they are, hold on to the familiar. We’d rather have the answers. We’d rather know where we’re going. After all, this is what our mind is busy doing everyday – keeping us quote on quote safe by maintaining the status quo.

But if we can just tap into the sea of courage that lies within us, and just allow ourselves to feel the feelings without judgment, without all the “shoulds and musts” we have created for ourselves… then with that compassionate awareness a new version of ourselves is created that will light up the world.

This is how the universe puts us back on track.

So if you’re in that space, please know that you’re not alone.

I see you, I honour you and I promise you, that the breakthrough is coming and it’s much bigger than you could’ve ever dreamed of.

Your bravery will be rewarded, just sit still.

Lots of love,

Speak soon.

Episode 82 – Internal Wisdom by Tannaz Hosseinpour

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Hi Soul friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. A couple of days ago, on my morning walk, I was reminded of a beautiful truth, a truth that if we remember as adults, most of our internal confusion subsides.

In my one on one sessions, I hear this question a lot ” who am I ?”. So much of our life is spent chasing this question. We look for our identity in places and in people. And for short periods of time we attach our sense of self to the answers that we find in them. However since everything in life is temporary, that attachment and recognition subsides with time as well. Then we’re back to where we started. Looking for answers.

Now we’ve all heard the statement, all that you seek is already within you.

But what does that really mean?

Well, let’s look at the world around us. Let’s look at the plants, the animals and even infants.

An infant doesn’t think to itself let me be an infant- it just is. A lemon tree doesn’t think to itself let me be a lemon tree and bear lemons, it just does. An animal doesn’t think to itself let me be an animal, it just is. There is a certain level of knowing present. It uses its internal wisdom to live its truth. We see this when animals give birth and their offsprings slowly start to move on their own. We see this when infants start to learn how to crawl and walk.

This inner wisdom is shining so brightly when we’re born. Infants are so connected to this source. However the light starts to dim as we grow older. That certainty in who we are and what we’re meant to do, and that level of creativity that we have, that level of knowing, it starts to fade away.

It starts to get overshadowed by our parents, by our community, by our teachers.

Our caretakers tend to transfer their own hopes and wishes that they had for themselves onto us, and soon we are no longer able to distinguish what desire belongs to us and what desire belongs to others.

While their intentions tend to be pure and good natured, every soul is meant for a different purpose.

Hence why so many people feel unfulfilled and confused. Their programming does not align with their soul’s calling. The truth is, we can’t live other peoples dreams as well as they can live their own

So as adults, we then develop an urge, and tickling to get an understanding of self .. and we tend to do this based from the external.

But the answer is already inside of us, hidden under years and years of social conditioning passed onto us by others.

So what is the solution?

It’s a simple solution but not necessary easy because it requires us to do the one thing everyone tells us not to do: which is to do nothing.

Its allowing ourselves the space and grace to enter into the state of silence, into the space of nothingness where everything is possible, and separate ourself from the illusion of the outside world, Only then is the inner wisdom activated and we can finally understand who we are and who we are meant to be.

It’s also important to note that some people can be extremely instrumental in helping us activate the inner ding. Those are the people who feel like home, who empower us simply by being in their presence. If you don’t have that community, then find a mentor or coach who can create that safe space for you to go within. As a coach myself, I’m honoured to have the duty of helping my clients remove these layers to get to their truth.

The glow in their eyes when something clicks.

You know that feeling you get when you’re like “I can’t explain it but I just know”

or when an idea pops up and it excites every cell in your body or the realization that puts your whole body at ease. The internal wisdom is always alive.

We just need to be willing to hear it.

I once read a beautiful line that said, when the teacher is ready, the student will appear. when the student is ready the teacher will appear. when the leader is ready the vision will appear. when the artist is ready, the creative force will appear. We simply need to be ready, and that readiness comes from the willingness to let go of all that we thought we are and allow our soul to go back home to its truth.

I promise you in that truth there lies an abundance of love, joy, bliss, flow, wealth and more.

That truth gives us purpose, gives us meaning.

So this week soul friends, gift yourself the beauty of silence. silence the chattering thoughts. allow yourself to sit in the space of not-knowing, not having all the logical answers – and allow yourself to go deep within into that vault of knowledge that lies within your heart.

A great technique is imagining a beautiful box that holds within it bright golden light.. visualize this box in your heart.. you and only you have the key. envision yourself opening the box and being completely covered with that light. do not seek for the answers. allow them to come to you on their own.

have trust in the process.

you are much more powerful than you could ever imagine

thank you for listening

speak soon

Episode 80 – Surrender vs Taking Action by Tannaz Hosseinpour

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Hi Soul-Friends,

It’s Tannaz hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of minutes on growth. Today I want to discuss a topic that has come up in the past as well, the perceived thought that surrendering and taking action are opposing concepts in the manifesting process.

In spiritual communities, we hear this quiet often… surrender to the higher source, have faith, let go and let god, trust the universe.

But then we also hear motivational speakers, and coaches stress the importance of taking action, taking imperfect action, taking aligned action, taking inspired action.

So which is it?

Well its both, and today I want to explain why.

To begin with, we are not sole creators of our lives. We are co-creators with the source, with the light, with the universe. Think of it as a 50-50 partnership. We are the ones preparing the building materials and doing the labour but the universe is the grand architect putting it all together to be the best of the best. This is where the belief “life is always happening for my highest good” comes from.

But why would we want the higher source to be the architect – don’t we know ourselves better than anyone else? because our perception of reality is limited to our body’s eyes. It is a 3D perspective confined by the constraint of time, whereas the universe has a timeless 5D grand vision. & to be honest, wouldn’t you want the absolute best architect for your building?

Which brings me to my second reason — you might have just responded “no” to my last question and that is perfectly fine too. This is the concept of free will. There is no coercion involved in manifesting and spirituality. Everyone has the free will to experience life as they’d like.

But if they choose to have source involved, that choice is always available to them. Think of source, light, universe as this silent powerful entity walking by your side 24 hours in a day. Always there to protect you, to support you, to assist you, but it won’t until you allow it. You have the free will to choose.

So how do you choose to activate this superpower partnership? by taking action. The moment we have taken action towards something, we have signalled the universe that I’m ready to receive this. I’m ready to embark on this journey. I’m ready to explore. So as you take a step, the universe reveals your next step. Clarity comes through action, because action activates divine guidance.

In other words, I am taking imperfect, inspired, messy, aligned action with the awareness and certainty that my next step is supported by the universe. that is the element of surrender. I know my role is to build the house, but its not my role to know how the house will look like, but I know, and have complete certainty that it will be the absolute best house – beyond what I could ever imagine. I am willing to surrender that part of not knowing.

Surrender is like trust – It’s It’s being in a dark tunnel, not seeing the end, but trusting that there is light at the end of the tunnel and just taking one step at a time…It’s that level of knowing without a shadow of doubt that the sun will rise when the moon sets.

Usually at this point, one major question comes up. How do I know what it coming is actually good for me? Remember, the mind loves to label things. That is how the mind stays in control and feels safe. But in reality, we don’t know or see the big picture to be able to judge whether an outcome is good or bad. Surrender means that I know that whatever comes after I’ve showed up to the best of my ability is for the best, even if my mind can’t grasp it.

I cannot stress the importance of showing up to the best of your ability enough times. Yes your best will look different every single day, but a life with integrity is a life where at the beginning of the day we set an intention to show up and at end of the day, you tell yourself “I did my best and that is good enough for me”. Sometimes our best is being on supercharge, sometimes our best means simply pausing and not reacting to a challenge, sometimes our best is being there for others and sometimes our best is just resting in bed and meditating. You and only you can know what your best looks like.

So why don’t some people take action? Because we tend to take action when we believe that something is possible for us, that we’re worthy and deserving of it. If that belief isn’t there, the mind will convince us to stay stagnant. The mind will fill us up with thoughts like “who do you think you are to want that, that desire is only for certain people, it won’t work out so why try, if it could be done it would’ve been done” and so much more.

If you’ve heard yourself say these before, remember its just your mind playing small.

You are MORE than your limiting beliefs.

Let them go. See yourself as worthy and deserving of it all. See everything through the lens of possibility.

The moment the idea comes to you, it is yours to claim. It has already manifested in the metaphysical realm. It just needs to be manifested in the physical, and that is why taking action matters.

So soul-friends, once again please remember that the universe cannot deliver the vision if you haven’t a step in the direction of your goals, dreams and desires. When you take a step, the vortex between the metaphysical and physical, the portal of light is opened, and through that portal the universe will shower you with all the guidance, and support you need but you need to open the portal. The key to the portal is always with you.

& you as an extension of source, deserve to have all that you desire and more. You just have to believe it and walk confidently in that direction.

Thank you for listening,

Speak soon