In this 23-minute episode, I explore what it really means to expect more from men; not from a place of criticism or perfectionism, but from a belief in their capacity to grow.
We talk about the difference between supporting our partners and becoming their therapists, mothers, or emotional managers; why we need to stop glorifying breadcrumbs and the bare minimum; and how overfunctioning can prevent the people we love from stepping up and taking responsibility for their own growth.
I also explore the Kabbalistic concept of “earning the light,” why growth often requires choosing the uncomfortable path, and what Ted Lasso can teach us about a version of masculinity where pain, vulnerability, kindness, accountability, and strength can coexist.
Ultimately, this episode is an invitation to raise our standards without trying to control another person and to remember that believing in someone’s potential also means believing they’re capable of doing their own work.
Minutes on Growth 