Episode 50 – How To Communicate & Be Heard

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Hi Soul-Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. A couple of days ago, I did a live relationship Q/A on Instagram where I shared a communication tip that many found useful so I thought that I would share it here with you as well.

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re speaking to your significant other, your romantic partner, but the other person isn’t giving you the feedback you want. You’re sharing a story with them, but they’re on their phone. You’re speaking to them about your feelings, but it seems as if they’ve mentally checked out.

How frustrating does it feel? I myself experienced all of those numerous times and for me personally, it felt really annoying. I felt as if my partner didn’t care about me or that he didn’t love me enough to listen to me. I created so many mental stories around his reactions, stories that hurt me even more until I learned what I am about to share with you.

About a year ago, I learned that just because someone has the time, doesn’t necessarily mean that they have the mental capacity to process new information. So just because my partner is home from work and he’s not technically at work anymore, and he’s resting & watching tv, it doesn’t mean that he has the mental capacity to process what I am about to share with him. He might physically be there, but he might be carrying a heavy mental load.

So how has this realization changed things? Well now, when either one of us wants to share something or discuss something of significance that requires the other person’s full attention, we ask for permission first. So it sounds something like this,

My love, I would love to share something with you. Let me know when you’re available to give me your attention. You can add whether it is urgent or not, so for example I could either say, it’s not time sensitive or it’s a bit time sensitive, so I’d appreciate it if you could make time for it as soon as possible.

When I say this, I need to create space for two responses. Either my partner will let me know that they’re available at that very moment OR I allow them to say not right now and to give me a date and time that works for them, so when they have both the time and mental capacity to give me their full attention , be fully present, and process what I’m sharing with them. Being okay with the second response is crucial in this process. Your partner needs to feel safe and comfortable saying no, without having the fear of how you’ll react and you need to be open to hearing it, without judgment, and vice versa.

Learning and practicing this has truly enhanced the quality my relationship. Now, if I’m communicating with my partner, I feel heard. When both parties in a relationship feel heard, they tend to appreciate and respect one another more.

I hope that this communication tool serves you and your relationship as much as it has served mine. May we all feel seen, heard and valued in our relationships.

Thank you for listening, speak soon.

Episode 47 – Highest Vision

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Hi Soul-Friends,

It’s Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. The other day, I was having a discussion with one of the members of my Rumi & Shams poetry club, that I would like to share with you.

We are discussing one of Rumi’s poems, where he writes, You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?

She said that when she heard this line, all she could imagine was the elephants back in her home country India, that lost their strength as soon as they were chained by their feet. How is that possible? Elephants are big and heavy animals that can easily kill someone by simply stepping on them, but when humans put on a small chain around one foot, they suddenly forget all their power and just surrender.

I’ve noticed that it’s the same with human beings. We are all born with unlimited potential and greatness stored within us. However, over the years, as a result of social conditioning, we seem to become like the elephant, forgetting our truth and losing our strength. We forget that we’re born with wings, and instead of crawl through life.

The older we get, the more we lose sight of the divinely unique purpose that is stored safely inside of our heart. We forget to tap into our unique talents and we overlook our passions. We think small. We act small.

But I’m here to remind you of your power, of your greatness, of the realm of infinite possibilities that is within you.

All you need to do is remove those chains that have kept you stagnant for all these years, that has kept you trapped in a box. Now, these chains can be the limiting beliefs you’re holding on to, the belief that only x amount of people can follow their purpose and generate tremendous wealth doing so, or the belief that you need to be lucky to be successful. These chains can be the lies you’ve told yourself, that you’re not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough.

I need you to remember that the same mind that can create chains, can also break free from them. It’s all in your control

So today, ask yourself, how have you kept yourself from growing into your highest-self, your highest-vision and once you are reminded of your truth, and of the great vision that was designed for your soul, then take inspired action towards it.

Thank you for listening, speak soon.

Episode 45 – The Blessing of Pain

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Hi everyone, Its Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another short solo episode of Minutes on Growth. Yesterday a close friend of mine called me and in the middle of our conversation she said something that made me pause and think. She had this belief that as a result of having so many blessings in her life, god was sending painful emotions and circumstances to her to balance out the scales. This belief of hers made me think a lot about all the other beliefs that we carry within us about pain and suffering.

From a spiritual perspective, pain and suffering is always looked upon as a blessing.

The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches us that in order to remove pain and suffering from the world, all we need to do is remove pain and suffering from one person. And in order to do that, we need to have experienced the pain ourself. When we go through things, our soul gets qualified to help other people in those exact same areas. When we feel our own pain, we can then help others heal. So our pain isn’t here so that we suffer or as a form of punishment, but rather it’s a gift to heal other people.

Ever heard of the expression, turn your mess into a message? There are 7 billion people on this planet, and while no one has experienced the exact same journey as you, many have experienced similar pains. As a result of your journey, you have experienced many insights, cultivated many talents that you are now responsible to share with the world.

When we share our story, transformation occurs. When we share our pain with the world, healing happens.

However often times, we wait until the mess is finished to turn it into a message. Who said that you can’t heal yourself and other simultaneously? Use your pain to elevate not only your level of consciousness, but the collective consciousness as well.

When you’re feeling pain, be thankful, because you now know that with awareness something great is going to come out of it.

Have you ever sat down and thought about some of the pains you’ve experienced in the past, and how as a result of them, your journey in life changed for the better?

As a child my father always told me that our life is like a coil spring. When we are experiencing pain, we get compressed to our lowest point. But that just means that once we’re through with it, we’re going to jump up to our highest point. That’s how coil springs work right? This belief has made me embrace pain because I now believe that everything in life is divinely orchestrated for your highest good.

Deepak Chopra always says that all great things are preceded by chaos.

So today embrace the chaos. Embrace the pain. And allow greatness to come out of it. Allow growth to come out of it. Allow healing to come out of it. Allow elevated awareness and consciousness to come out of it.

Sending you love – Thank you for listening, speak soon.

Episode 42 – Purpose

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Hi Soul Friends, Its Tannaz Hosseinpour, and welcome to another short solo cast of Minutes on Growth. This week I want to speak about purpose. Let me start by saying that ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐Œ๐€๐“๐“๐„๐‘๐’ – ๐ข๐ญ is ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž.

Because the universe makes no mistakes.

Every single person is born with a ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ž๐ ๐ฌ๐š๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ & ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ญ that will make the world a better place.

To complement that purpose, theyโ€™re gifted a set of ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ช๐ฎ๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐š๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ & ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ.

It is then ๐Ž๐”๐‘ responsibility to discover these magical gems, our truth, and to live life to our ๐‡๐ˆ๐†๐‡๐„๐’๐“ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐š๐ฅ.

It is ๐Ž๐”๐‘ responsibility to ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ž because that light enhances lives.

It is ๐Ž๐”๐‘ responsibility to believe that our ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž on this physical realm, right now, at this very moment, truly ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ, because it DOES.

However, often times when we are ๐ฎ๐ง๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐ž of our gifts & purpose, we betray ourself with negative self talk. We stop believing in ourself. We dim our light. We self-sabotage. 

Diminishing your potential and inner light is an act of self-betrayal

But what if you haven’t discovered your reason, your true calling, your purpose yet? I recently released a FREE 7 part Mini Series on Instagram to help you gain insights into your purpose. My instagram handle is @minutesongrowth and there is a Life Purpose highlight on the main feed, and if you’re interested to dive deeper, I also have a self-paced online course that covers all those 7 topics in much more detail. It is guaranteed to answer your “Why am I here?” question.

Click here to learn more about the online course

You see your presence truly matters. It always has. It always will.

You just need to believe it.

I was listening to a podcast the other day where the host shared a story that I want to share with you. He said imagine you buy a million dollar lottery ticket, and place it in your pocket. The ticket you bought is the winning ticket but you have absolutely no idea as you haven’t had a chance to check yet. At that point in your life, you’ve now become a millionaire but you just don’t know it yet. Until at some point, days later, you check the numbers and realize that you are the winner, you are a millionaire. Has anything changed throughout the hours? No, the ticket was always in your pocket. You’ve been a millionaire for some time, its just that NOW you actually know it.

It’s the same with your greatness. You have ALWAYS been great, you just need to know it now. Knowing it can become easier when we embark on a journey of self-discovery, where we discover our talents, & passions, where we get know ourself better. We usually study everything else except ourself, so today, I ask you to please put some time aside for yourself, discover your truth, discover yourself so that you can live a meaningful and fulfilled now

& never forget how great you are. Your presence matters. Believe it. Know it

Sending you lots of love, speak soon.

Episode 41 – The Poison of Gossip

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Hi everyone, its Tannaz Hosseinpour and welcome to another solo episode of Minutes on Growth.

When my mind is in overdrive, I sometimes like to watch reality tv. As I was watching one particular Real housewives episode, I noticed that I had spent a good 30 minutes watching grown women gossip about one another continuously, which got me thinking about the overall action of gossiping. Why do we gossip? It never really solves anything. I mean most of the drama on the show is because they are gossiping, so nothing really good comes out of it. So why do we feel the need to engage in it?

You see, when we gossip, we’re operating out of a scarcity mindset – we’re talking from a place of judgment, comparison and doubt. These are all low vibrational, low frequency emotions, so in other words we are creating a negative energetic field around ourself, and then once we’re done gossiping, we continue walking through the day with that cloud of negativity following us. So not only have we hurt another person but ultimately we have hurt our own state of wellbeing as well, hence why it’s so poisonous.

A few years ago, one of my mentors told me something that blew my mind. She said its impossible for you to recognize a trait within someone else if it’s not present within you at some level. If you think someone is jealous of you, then perhaps that trait it within you otherwise you wouldn’t have noticed it. It might be at different levels but the seed is there.

Since learning this, I’ve become really conscious of gossiping. Whenever I find myself gossiping about someone, I try to bring my awareness back to my statement. I ask myself, what part of myself needs healing and awareness? What trait of the other person is triggering my wounds?

Do I still sometimes gossip? As much as I’d like to say no, the answer is yes. Even though I try my best to not engage in this toxic behaviour, I’m only human, and I too fail. I have however noticed that when I do tend to fail and gossip, I’m usually doing it with the same people. So community plays a major role in this as well. Who are you surrounding yourself with? What activities are you engaging with when you’re with them? How do you feel when you’re with them? How do you feel when you’ve left them? This is why we need to be really intentional with our community and how we spend our time. I talk a lot about this in my Discover Your Purpose Online course so if you’d like to learn more about how you can create an empowering community for yourself then check it out.

Another great way to restrict yourself from gossiping is to practice the socrates test – whenever you find yourself wanting to gossip, ask yourself, is what I am about to share with others true? is it positive and good? and lastly is it useful? Not everything we say must be useful, but it needs to be true or good so If it’s not good or true, refrain from engaging. Everything becomes a habit when we repeat it over and over again, so we can program our mind to automatically pass statements through this test.

So today if you catch yourself judging someone else, take a moment and pause. Ask yourself, where are these thoughts coming from? What part of my soul needs my attention? How can I shift from this scarcity mindset to an abundant one? and lastly is it true, good or useful?

Remember, what you focus on expands,

Sending you lots of love, speak soon.